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Tomshardware 7:48 Mon Jan 13
Anxiety/depression
Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

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Pickle Rick 2:48 Thu Nov 26
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Billy Blagg 1:14 Thu Nov 26

I can empathise with that although mine is not to the extent yours is\\was. I'm hoping the counselling will help me as its affecting my work and I still have 19 years to do to retirement so have to get a handle on this.

Pickle Rick 2:47 Thu Nov 26
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Sniper 3:56 Tue Nov 24

Thanks Sniper, I appreciate your response.

lab 6:16 Thu Nov 26
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Jeez Billy what a terrible run that is .You’ve got this far mate, it will get better.

Billy Blagg 1:14 Thu Nov 26
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I've had three deaths in three years; Lady B in 2018, my dad last year and my mum this. I'm on my own now - no siblings - and though I've two kids they live a way away and, in any case, I don't want my life to impact theirs. I tried counselling both bereavement and Psychotherapy and I didn't get anything from either. I'm just trying to work through it on my own but it has been hard this year. I do wonder if you ever come through, to be honest. I guess it depends on where you are in your life and your prospects for some improvement. If I can get away on holiday and so some normal things then I hope '21 will be marginally better.

Balto 1:21 Wed Nov 25
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I posted on this thread back in the early days, and people were very sympathetic. I am amazed at how constructive this is. I followed quite a bit of the advice.

I have done quite a bit of therapy in my life but have given it a rest for the past couple of years. I got into a row with the Missus about a week ago, and after the dust had settled, she told me I was depressed and needed to see someone.

My default is that I try and focus on changing something in my real world, and after that, everything will be alright. That's all well and good, but often the cause is much deeper. However, I am going to get outside every day in the fresh air and exercise that makes a world of difference.

Seeing that Lanzini goal go in with my son sat beside me was priceless and made my weekend.

Sniper 3:56 Tue Nov 24
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Pickle

That’s awful, I’m so sorry to hear that. But hopefully the sessions will be good for you

Pickle Rick 3:31 Mon Nov 23
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I'm starting counselling next Monday as I've been struggling over the past 4 weeks, it's more bereavement counselling to deal with issues I didn't when my Dad died in front of me when I was 13. My trigger has been turning the same age he was when he died.

lab 12:29 Sat Nov 21
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Good post Sniper .
The first sentence made me smile too!

Sniper 11:32 Fri Nov 20
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The advice and support on here really is amazing - not bad for a load of people who spend most of their time just calling each other cunts!

I’ve put a few things on here before to try to help. I’ve had, and still have, a horrid time with depression. At times it feels overwhelming, unbearable and unending. And the frustrating thing as well is that I feel like you only get one strike with it - if you tell someone you’re suicidal or things are too much, in fairness you get sympathy and support. That doesn’t happen half as much the second time round

But, regardless, the point I wanted to make was this. I once read an article about a study into flu like viruses that showed that, in the days where you are most contagious before all the symptoms comes out, something in it he pathogens makes you want to be more sociable. It makes you want to come into contact with more people. So it can spread. It makes you want to do the one thing you shouldn’t in order to stamp it out.

Mental illness is the same. It may not be caused by a pathogen or a virus, but somehow it acts in the same way. It makes you feel useless, worthless and undeserving. It makes you feel thy at others shouldn’t talk to you or be around you. I make this distinction a lot - I didn’t want to see people, but it wasn’t because I didn’t want to be around them; it was because I didn’t want them to have to be around me. Depression makes you feel like you should isolate yourself away. And that way it breeds even more. It makes you feel that you shouldn’t talk. And that way you do t deal with it. And it makes you feel that you deserve to feel that way - so you don’t look for help.

It’s no different an illness to other more tangible and well understood ones, but people’s ignorance leads to fear and stigma and that too stops people reaching out.

It’s natural to not feel like talking or wanting help - and that’s what the illness wants. And, being brutally honest, not every person you speak to is helpful or understanding or sincere or supportive. In the same way that some people dont know how to cope or what to say if someone they know tells them they’ve got cancer or they’ve had a miscarriage or loses a limb, some people can’t with mental illness. But most people can. Most people try. And almost all people want to help. And just reaching out and seeing that can be enough to start pulling you in the right direction.

So thank you to everyone on this thread for offering support. And (and I apologise as there’s no way to say this without it sounding immensely patronising) well done to all those who’ve reached out. I say that with all sincerity. It’s not easy, but it does get less hard the more you do it.

Tomshardware 7:08 Sat Nov 14
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lab 5:41 Wed Nov 11

Bungo 12:03 Wed Nov 11
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peachy75 2:47 Sun Nov 8

"Never stop taking your meds( not a single pill should be missed) just missing one can start the downfall."

Just to add to that, when it is the right time to come off the meds, make sure you do it as per clinical instructions. That is, very slowly with a slow tapering down of the dose, taking pills alternate days etc. It's dull and very slow (weeks or even months), but you will be glad you did longer term.

lab 5:41 Wed Nov 11
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Good post Peachy .

peachy75 2:47 Sun Nov 8
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Been dealing with this for 20 years with my mother .
Very hard and people just dont understand ! Does not matter if you are rich or poor when you have it you have it and its extremely hard to come out off.
So i will give you some tips that i know help.

Drink and drugs are depressants avoid at all costs.

Never stop taking your meds( not a single pill should be missed) just missing one can start the downfall .

Make sure you go to sleep in your bed (not sofa or anywhere else)

No matter how down you feel make the effort to get up brush teeth, wash hair , eat , etc etc

Exercise is key -get out in the open and go for walks or runs anything that gets the blood pumping.

Talk to people - never be afraid of your feelings and let your friends and family know how you are.

Take a good quality CBD - this is amazing for anxiety and because its natural can be taken with any prescribed med.
The one i and my mum take is called botanical 113 just look them up.

You have to learn to live with it as once you have it then unfortunately it is always there lurking in the background but thats not to say you cant tame that beast and try to keep it caged as much as possible.

I also think that a tidy house helps with a tidy mind try to make sure that you are in a clean and clutter free enviroment.

Eat healthy

When you ARE better as you will get through it thats when you need to keep everything in check as keeping up the exercise- eating well- clean house etc etc will keep you on the straight and narrow .

Hope this is off help to you and you can private message me if you have any questions and i would be more than happy to help.

Good luck in your quest of happiness

michael 6:53 Fri Nov 6
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Grasshopper/lab
Life does turn ,something may happen in life
Where there’s no happy ending
Have had the black dog around
Try to keep busy if possible
Good luck

Takashi Miike 12:06 Fri Oct 30
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grasshopper - whomail

Westham67 12:11 Thu Oct 29
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This dark start to winter did not do me any favours last year but I am more getting accustomed to it now 2nd full winter since 2002/3

Darlo Debs 11:39 Tue Oct 27
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Grasshopper sorry you are feeling that way.

I am.sure the steps mentioned will.help but also.yrge you tomtry talking therapy .

We have this service here;
https://www.talkingchanges.org.uk/

But am sure if you visit your gp you'll be signposted tona similar service near you.

Come On You Irons 2:53 Tue Oct 27
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Dicko75 5:22 Sat Oct 24
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Good post. I have been walking much more lately and really pushing myself. I feel great after a brisk walk workout in the morning.

I have also started to eat more healthily and have switched to things like fresh soup for lunch and more rice for dinner. It really does make an impact.

one iron 12:17 Sun Oct 25
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Dicko75,walking is massive, and the main thing talk dont bottle it up inside.people who keep quiet suffer more.dont worry what other people think,its your life

normannomates 6:53 Sun Oct 25
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Cock stretch classes incoming.. Sundays.. 05.00

Manuel 3:26 Sun Oct 25
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Dicko - And sex too, don't forget to give that up too, to complete the set.

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