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Tomshardware 7:48 Mon Jan 13
Anxiety/depression

Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread.
This thread is sacrosant.Thank you .email contact address pfdx52@gmail.com

chim chim cha boo 3:08 Tue Sep 26
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Pents, for some shitty reason I can't reply to Whomails but I meant sincerely the post below.

You're an absolute inspiration.

Pentonville 12:59 Tue Sep 26
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Wow. You old leftie punk :-)
Thank you very much. I echo the words of yours about this site and all its users 👍

chim chim cha boo 4:33 Sun Sep 24
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Pentonville,

I'd like to give you a shout out too.

When I first became aware of you you were, with the greatest respect, someone who anyone with a shred of empathy worried about.

You had times I don't want to drag up and trigger you again when I genuinely thought we were going to lose you. Shit in Spain, shit with your mum - a situation we'd all crumble from, no matter how robust we think we are.

Look at you now pal, a shining light, an empathic, sensitive man it would be an honour to call a friend.

I hope it shows that any of us (including me) can turn our lives around, thanks in part to this idiotic and dysfunctional site. When the chips are down, some people on here roll their sleeves up, circle the wagons and protect our own.

There has been the odd poster who has taken the piss a bit with the WHO fund but they are VERY few and far between. and shame on them.

Keep up the good fight lads and stay alive - if only to piss the powers that be off. We've got the tools and I couldn't imagine two more upright creatures running the fund than Charley and Moncs.

My love to you who are suffering and if you ever find yourselves in Camden I'd gladly provide a shoulder and buy you a beer.

Pentonville 9:36 Mon Sep 18
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I spoke to Block about 6 ot 7 weeks ago and he was very into family life and commitment to that and busy with work. All seemed positive but I hadn't spoke to him for a time.before that either. All seemed good to me 👍

Pentonville 9:33 Mon Sep 18
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Just saw this. Thanks Charley. Its good to give back, the circle as it were. As chim says, we are west ham and we fight together!

charleyfarley 3:40 Sun Sep 17
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Well said Chim...fight as best as you can, get support from around you...WHO mail on here, post on here don't be afraid to ask for help and I'm sure between us we can help in some way.
Also a quick reminder of the work in the background that Pentonville does, he has been an absolute prop for so many posters, that he has helped due to his own experiences he has been a rock. So on behalf of WHO Pents, thanks for all your help. Finally can somebody who knows Block well, check in to see if he is ok, haven't heard from in a while..

chim chim cha boo 2:39 Tue Aug 29
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I'm not for one minute telling anyone to 'just pull yourself together' but come on, we're the West Ham family and that means that when one of us fall into a trench another goes back through enemy fire and gives him a hand up to keep him/or Debs in the fight.

It's been said loads of times before that we're all here for you and would rather pay your rent for a month while you're on your arse than buy a wreath.

We're all a couple of paydays from oblivion and most of us understand that. WHO, for all its faults have Charlie Farley and the incomparable Moncs as your last resort, your net if you like and that's why despite most of us being complete cunts, we/they will stop you falling through it.

Don't be shy.

charleyfarley 7:07 Thu Aug 24
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That is an awful lot to deal with WHUex must have a terrible time for you so glad you got back on an even keel mate and thanks for posting it

Westham67 3:55 Thu Aug 24
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Thinks can get on top of you and it's hard to unscramble you mind

My brother 10 years older than me and in poor health has just been diagnosed with lung and bone cancer. He spoke to his GP for a year about the above and ended up calling 111. I am the only one in our family he has told in confidence
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Wils 11:00 Wed Aug 23
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I'd like to echo much of what WHU(exeter) says below about there always being a way out. I'd add to what he says that when you really feel at a dead end and can't see how you can go on, lay off the alcohol completely and try to get a good night sleep. The alcohol might feel it's relaxing you and sending you off but it stops you getting the REM sleep that helps you heal and resolve stressful situations. If you can get a good 8hours of non-alcohol induced sleep you stand a much better chance of thinking creatively and working stuff out and at least clearing some of the fog.

happygilmore 11:55 Tue Aug 15
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Blimey Ex, that was a lot to go through. You seem to have found an inner strength to cope.

Life throws a lot of ups and downs. We really need to remind ourselves to make the best of our short time on this planet

WHU(Exeter) 2:16 Tue Aug 15
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I suffered from this, that and the other as a few years ago I had over a month period, of my Mum, Dad and sister all in such bad health, that every time my phone went, it could easily have been someone telling me that one of them had died. My Mum had dementia and had a stroke, my Dad was in a diabetic type coma in hospital and my sister couldn’t cope with it and I feared for her, with what turned out to be justifiable reasons.

At the same time, I was learning a brand new system at work (from an outside source and not proper trainers) and had three quarters of my team out. On evenings would be travelling 80 miles back and forth to visit my Mum and Dad in separate towns, because the hospitals and care homes they were in were 20 miles apart.

When my Mum did die during that time, my Dad came round thankfully, but he was diagnosed with dementia straight after. During Covid especially it was very hard to try to explain to him over the phone, why I couldn’t visit and the situation with my Mum.

All in all it did me in eventually, and I’ve suffered from a lot of the anxieties explained on here by others.

Think this thread has been brilliant though for offering ways out to people. One of the best bits of advice I’ve had is when you’re facing problems, no matter what they are, there are always solutions. Instead of your mind spinning all the time, in the middle of the night, or first thing every morning, try to dispel it all, wait for a time, your own time later on when you are calmer. Think of all the possible solutions to whatever it is you’re facing. Write down the pros and cons to all the solutions you can think of, whittle it down to the few solutions that you think you can go with, do it and dispel all the others crowding your mind.

Westham67 11:13 Mon Aug 14
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Mine was severe or clinical depression. It was only the therapy that got me out of in 3 weeks and then there was the low mood and anxiety to work on . Looking back I was suffering from depression and low mood for over 4 years

Westham67 11:12 Mon Aug 14
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Mine was severe or clinical depression. It was only the therapy that got me out of in 3 weeks and then there was the low mood and anxiety to work on . Looking back I was suffering from depression and low mood for over 4 years

Willtell 8:47 Mon Aug 14
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I am sorry to read that you've had troubles Debs. Keep smiling though and have a row with Surf & goose. You know that it'll make you feel better mate.

Darlo Debs 1:09 Sun Aug 13
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That depends what you mean by low level. Also people with depression that's not clinical
Often have more than one low level.issue getting to them and so.dont know where to start in overcoming things and get totally overwhelmed.

I ended up.losing my appetite and not taking my meds ( which basically keep me alive) over what you might consider low level.depression. One of which was grief. That alone can floor someone enough to cause them.to.want to kill.themselves. So yes while you have a point about serious mental.health issues it's not for anyone to say what is low level or not as you don't know how they are coping with what you perceive to be minor ills.

Westham67 4:13 Wed Aug 2
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From triage to completed therapy was 8 months.

Under 16s are 18 month's +

The medication is not a cure. The problem is GPs cannot prescribe or adust any mental health meds dosages and the even psychiatric nurses are is short supply. There is no support after threarpy and no supported get off the meds plan . I weaned myself of olanzapine when I was working in Qatar

SurfaceAgentX2Zero 2:38 Wed Aug 2
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One of the problems in the UK is that far too much money has been diverted to low-level stuff, basically expensive drugs and therapy for a LOT of people feeling a bit down about various aspects of everyday life, and stripped away from serious mental health issues.

Half the country seems to be on free or subsidised Prozac or Sertraline and yet people with serious mental health conditions are kicked out onto the street and left to the not so tender mercies of 'indifference in the community'.

Coffee 10:10 Fri Jul 7
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"he went the extra mile to be a good host"

Always a sign of a quality person, imho.

Manuel 3:25 Fri Jul 7
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I enjoyed Yogib's company back when in Dubai for a few days, he went the extra mile to be a good host, something that I appreciated at the time and still remember. Hope he is doing okay.

chim chim cha boo 2:22 Fri Jul 7
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I've wanted to have a beer with you for a long time Moncs. Let's make it happen soon eh?

I'm meeting up with the incorrigible LOUT Joe Royal tomorrow night for a few and a catch-up in the West End.

I'm not on here all that much any more and he told me some pretty distressing stuff about another poster we know and love, YogiB.

In fact Yogi, if you are around and reading this and there's anything you want or need, just reach out to us mate. I cannot fucking believe how unlucky you've been lately.

I was talking to a doctor a good while ago when they were talking about dreading a third wave of Covid and I'll always remember what he said, 'the third wave is already well underway but it's not in the area you're looking for, it's an absolute tsunami of poor mental health'.

I think most of us can agree with that.

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