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"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

"What words fit? Great news that you are managing this, Steve - you've taken a thread that was already heading ""in the right direction"" even further so. I say that as a complete outsider here as I really struggle to get a handle on what many on here are going through - but you are West Ham, so I suspect I'm not alone when I say we're all behind you (ooh- err, mrs.). Post more - even if it is just to call me a complete twat."

Great news . Well done Steve .

Fair play to you Steve Good to hear from you and keep your pecker up mate

Well this thread has turned out to be a lifesaver for many and to hear from Steve is like the icing on the cake. Let's a help one another get all the problems straightens out that need to be straightened out and put down next year as one of the best we have all had for along time. Steve everything ur doing makes sense..westham67 knows all about that stuff so reach out to him. Very happy news that is. Made my day. üëç

"That's very good news Steve I am glad you managed to get yourself right . If you need some advice about visas you can get a 6 month visit visa of a settlement visa which means she could work For the 6 month visit visa you or another party has to sponsor her for living cost for 6 months. A letter , bank statements and a tenancy agreements"

"Good afternoon everyone, thought I would just check in and let you all know that everything is okay. Thank you seriously to everyone who has messaged and commented to see if I was okay I took some time away from the Internet, social media etc Took some me time and hit the gym, put myself into work which is a health kick in itself, eating better etc and have a better out look on life now. A big part of my life now is trying to get my on/off girlfriend here from the Philippines. Having someone around who want syo be with me, sharing problems with her and spending time just not being on my own with my thoughts will help me move on from pretty much a bad year, mentally. The hammers having a good season so far and watching us hold our own in Europe surely helps to have a brighter outlook aswell. Again everyone, thank you all for the messages, I really appreciate it. Hope everyone else is doing alright and enjoying our Europe's league exploits so far. Ironsss"

"Its like lego, just keep building everyday and doing a bit more each time. I'm getting better and better. I'm enjoying the boxing chat on here. Also my boys 3rd brithday on Saturday so I got that to look forward to and then west ham Sunday so already I have things to look forward to at end of this week so it makes this week worthwhile. I think my missus is off a week later for half term (she a teacher) so then that's my next thing to look forward to cos then we can do things as a family. I love you lot too. Never forget that. All of you."

Pentonville 12:37 Mon Oct 11 Well done. That’s a really positive day. And you did it yourself. That’s brilliant. Hope your still enjoying the feeling

"Been struggling the last few days, over the last month the boy has been quite poorly, which I've caught off him - on top of having norovirus twice and this fucking chest an throat infection. Throwing in the lack of sleep due to the baby not being well and unsettled, I'm feeling absolutely fucked and run down. Need a break, had little to no time for myself with so much going on at the weekends, where I usually take a day to go fishing which really helps my mental state but not having had that, has seen me struggle a fair bit."

Best weekend for ages. Saturday went shopping with family and decided to take this tourist train on wheels that I've always resisted going round cannes cos I thought u looked like a tourist knob but did it and found out loads about my town which really cheered me up and made me feel like I belonged a bit more. I won't lie I did have a irosh coffee for lunch before I did it but under the watchful care of my wife. Was just to loosen me up a bit. Then Saturday evening watched football and then set alarm for fury fight. Sunday was nice cos wife went out so I sat alone watching football kid free. Woke up today feeling 'normal'. Having sport to talk about takes ur mind of stuff. The important thing for ur brain is to have something to care about. That's when I find I start to win again. To care about outside of family I mean.

Jesus I messaged him too ages ago. Little did I know what was coming round the corner at me. I really hope he is ok. Can't a mod look at his login details and find an email address

I whomailed Steve a few weeks abo but nothing back

I whomailed Steve a few weeks abo but nothing back

Good to see such positivity on here and fellow Whoers managing/sorting out their troubles one way or another and making good progress. Really is a great tonic and one that I’m sure will help everyone achieve their goals. We just need Stevethehammer to let us know he’s safe and well. Anyone heard anything? Deeply concerning now.

"On a thread about anxiety/depression that's probably the worst advice imaginable. Might as well say ""just drink more booze"""

"You’ll be much happier if you just dump the missus and smoke more weed. Did you mix the cannabis with tobacco? That might be the cause of your withdrawal issues. There is nothing wrong with smoking weed, the sooner it’s legal the better."

"I woke up today feeling more depressed than I've felt in years. I thought it was probably to do with the massive row I had with the missus last night. I've been smoking weed daily since the Pandemic but for health reasons (and cost reasons) I decided to knock it on the head for a few months. Even though I've smoked cannabis on and off for most of my adult life I had no idea how severe withdrawal was until Googling it today. Though it's short term compared to other drugs, it's not a nice feeling. Night sweats, loss of appetite, and severe depression. Just say no, kids!"

"For what it's worth, I always found - and still find - domestics an excellent way to relax/unwind. Ironing: fuck all to worry about except getting rid of the creases. I've literally had to wrestle the iron off of some of the bints I've lived with - they felt it was their duty to do all that shit and never understood me fucking them off over it. Anyhow. Good news, Pents, and you seem to have inspired 3 others to follow the right road. Best wishes to you all."

Kind words pony and seems you have the minerals too. At some point I'd love to meet up with everyone. Maybe if we vet marseille or Monaco in europa then it will be on my manor but if not I'm sure I'd be back before Xmas at some point anyway just to get some reality checks. Today is an OK day. I think my behaviour has affected my son so that don't feel good. He feels a bit distant but I don't blame him. I'm hanging in there. I can joke and now can actually watch a programme if it interests me. So my brain is certainly interacting. Just the depression bit to overcome next. Hard to explain. I'm keeping busy. I'll even start ironing or cleaning when I'm feeling low just to take my mind off it. I think if you watched me you would think I appear erratic cos I gotta keep busy. I'll move a book a few times to make sure it's level. But that's cos I've stopped the valium. 6 of them a day was never gonna be easy to shake off. Not interested in booze. Just keeping active. Walking. Cleaning and ironing. Lol no wonder I'm depressed. I live facing the beach ffs. Next step next week is going for swims. Been warned not to yet until I get heart check cos apparently a jump into a cold bath or sea during withdrawals could shock my heart. I'll let u know when I'm doing it.

Glad you made it through Pony son. Keep on keeping on mate.

"Firstly, I’m amazed I’m still here right now. I had a complete shutdown a couple of weeks back and thought that was it. Reading this thread always helps me though. Pentonville, you’ve done the hard yards mate, and you can do the rest. I believe you’ve got the strength of the mind to do this fella. You seem like an absolute trooper to me. I’d be up for a chat if you need it mate. I’d also be well up for meeting some of you fellas in a pub to have a few slurps. Sounds like a stellar idea."

Pentonville 10:51 Thu Oct 7 That's good news as IH posted a one hour kip can recharge the batteries and get the stress levels down

"Hi Pentonville Don’t underestimate the really restorative benefits of having a one hour nap/ lie down/ or even just a lights out & phone turned off break in the afternoon. As you said yourself by the end of the day you feel exhausted. That’s completely natural as your head is like a washing machine going all the time. To allow yourself the time to unplug will really recharge the batteries and help you keep pushing thru. Your doing so well, please take the time to congratulate your for that. Well done mate"

Thailand is coming off of the red list on 11 of October. Which is good news . I was dreading my kids doing quarantine in HCMC. Even as a seasoned flyer that airport is a nightmare mainly the staff

"cheers Si..... yeah i have been approached by Marv Herbert and J english whom i must have contacted when off my head. problem is do i want the fall out. will that send me into a spiral or will it clear my head. lots of thinking to do... had a big pressure today regarding my boy but resisted any meds or booze so feel quite proud tonight. its thanks to all u lot i tell u. not out of woods but everyday i wake i feel positive. wont lie, by end of day i feel a bit exhausted and a bit like, whats my role in life now and what do i do but i promise to reach out if those thoughts get dark again."