Anxiety/depression

[Tomshardware]

"Been through bad time lately with suffering with this. Dark thoughts as well. I know some posters on here suffer with this. Anyone come through the other side of this shit?

"A number of posters have been yellow carded and told to stay off this thread unless they have anything constructive to add.This is a thread that has been very useful to so many, for any other posters with scores to settle, argue on another thread. This thread is sacrosant.Thank you"

[Moncurs Putting Iron]

"Hi chaps, Not been very WHO present due to work goings on around redundancy, with a with a long lead time and a doubled workload as a parting last quarter gift. I have options which makes me extremely lucky but picking the right one or passing up something and regretting it, well lets just say I have been withdrawn, deep in thought and not my usual happy go lucky self recently. I have support and will rise, but not able to give a lot. Big love to you all, as usual, here's hoping I can get some resolution and go back to being the annoyingly chipper litle cսnt you know and loathe :-)"

[panamahat]

"Haven’t been on here for a bit , so sad to hear that New Jersey , all the best in how you cope with things mate X"

[chim chim cha boo]

"I've just popped in to say hello and see how you're doing? Hold steady chaps, it might not feel it but spring is just around the corner, you've made it this far through another shitty winter and hopefully things will improve with a bit of sun on our backs. I sincerely wish you all the best."

[Steady]

"New Jersey - your post really touched me. You’ll never meet me or likewise I’ll never probably ever get to speak to you, but sending lots of love your way, that must be the hardest thing ever to deal with."

[fraser]

NJ - that's rough mate and you seem to be moving in the right direction which must take incredible strength.. All the best

[charleyfarley]

As others have said NJ there are no rambles on here. So glad you have got some kind of support to help you. If there is anything we can help with please let us know

[Westham67]

New Jersey 6:12 Tue Feb 20 I cannot imagine the grief you must be going through mate So sorry for you loss buddy Ramble away this is why this thread is pinned its for every WHOer in distress to share

[lowlife]

"Sorry for your loss NJ. Post as much as you want and need to on here. If it helps in any way, that's what we are all here for."

[ray winstone]

"My thoughts are with you NJ, sending a virtual hug X"

[Moncurs Putting Iron]

"NJ There is no timeline, set pattern or formula to grief. Yours is you unique to you individually and to your family as a collective. Thank you for posting, we really must pick a game to meet up. I owe you a hug."

[zico]

"Best Wishes NJ, so sorry for your loss."

[Pentonville]

Never forgotten NJ üôè

[Side of Ham]

.....Thank you for being brave enough to write about it as well......

[Side of Ham]

"New Jersey, you bloody well ramble on as much as you want, as it is a huge 'get things in perspective' lesson for all of us."

[New Jersey]

"IIt's just over six months since I lost my son, Simon, in a car accident on his way to Bournemouth to watch us at the start of the season. I'm forever grateful for the messages of support from WHO and the bouquet MPI and other sorted, it meant so much. Even now the grief at times is unbearable and if I'm not distracted I think about him all the time. Each day it's difficult to get up but we do and keep ourselves busy and we've had fantastic support from all of our friends. I feel I've made a little progress as I've started to do things because I want to not just to occupy my time. Although it took a while to get it, I'm having bereavement counselling with St Barnabus Hospice and its been absolutely brilliant in helping me cope. One thing that really stuck out was the counsellor said you may see grief as a stone in a jar and there's not much room for anything else but in time, hopefully the gap around the grief stone will get larger and you might be able to cope with other things and she's right. We have in time been able to live more of a ,normal life' but the grief is still there. It's particularly deep at the moment but hopefully it will subside but never go away, not that I want it too really. I also speak to two other parents who have lost a grown up child who reached out to us when it happened and I'm so glad they did as I've found that really helpful. Sorry to ramble on but I just wanted to say something."

[Westham67]

I know from personal experience that 50 grand plus is doable in casino playing cards

[Lee Trundle]

"""Any other addiction you cannot do 50 grand in a session"" That sounds like a challenge."

[Westham67]

People don't understand how destructive a gambling is. Any other addiction you cannot do 50 grand in a session I gamble responsibly is pathetic that wont deter anyone from gambling. Its like saying I take cocaine and heroin responsibly There is legislation coming through but being watered down to keep the tax rolling in

[zico]

"Westham67 4:07 Mon Feb 19 I totally agree. I'm not too keen on Ray Winstone and Keith Lemon (wasn't keen on Lemon anyway) these days purely because when I am watching You Tube gambling ads kick in for a full 40 seconds or so and they seem one of the few you can't skip. The most bizarre ruling though has to be this. Once I'd realised my problem to get my ""fix"" I would have the odd play of ""demo"" slots online. Just for fun of course, no money involved. Couple of years back the British Gambling Authority got involved in that and most demos were blocked. The only way you could play even the demos was to prove your age by signing up to the gambling website who supplied the demo with a card!! Madness, I never did. I could understand it to keep away kids from getting on the ladder with playing slots but for recovering gamblers not particularly sensible. I got an email once offering 50 free spins for a site. I took it on as it was free spins and a bit of fun. I won £100 out of the free spins but again to claim your winnings you had to sign up to the site with a card. Refused to do that and got another 2 hours of fun losing the £100 that I never had in the first place. Play online Chess now for a bit of fun., I'm absolutely crap so glad theres no money involved in that!"

[Westham67]

Thanks Charley zico I know from my own bitter experience how destructive compulsive gambling is when you have a partner who cannot keep away from playing cards. Well done firstly for realizing you had a problem and then being strong enough to be disciplined. Gambling ads should be banned

[zico]

Pentonville 12:15 Wed Feb 14 I wish West Ham were! ;-)

[zico]

Pentonville 12:15 Wed Feb 14 I wish West Ham were! ;-)

[Pentonville]

Fair play Zico..sounds like ur winning to me.

[zico]

"Appreciate it gents. It was really difficult to see mum with dementia. That's a drain on your sanity seeing a loved one suffering like that every week. We would all love to have our loved ones back but I wouldn't want mum back post 2019 it's a brutal disease. She was great with the gambling issue, always on the end of a phone. Told me I was a prat but didn't hammer me just was there for support. My mates were great as well. I worked out that with an addiction once you accept it you slaughter yourself enough, you don't need others to kick you as well, so their support helped. Was also surprised how good the counselling was. Didn't really believe in it but ended up only having two sessions. Turned out there is different types of gambling because I only did cards and slots, never bet on horses or dogs etc apart from a fun flutter on the National each year. She said I was a ""competitive"" gambler whose problem was I didn't like losing. Good for me on the pool table or football pitch but not so good when you are losing at cards or slot machines with no final whistle. It's the ""chasing"" that's the killer. It's weird because for years I used to drink a lot socially but never at home. Decided to quit totally last year as I got fed up with getting up several times in the night!! Now I drive when we all go out and I am the one without the hangover the next morning. No issue at all stopping that overnight. Strange."

[fraser]

"Zico - don't feel silly for being proud, you should be. Well done."